You’d be hard-pressed to find someone who didn’t believe sex to be a vital part of a romantic relationship. Across the board, therapists and relationship experts agree that regular intimacy keeps you connected mentally and physically to your partner. But what if you and your partner don’t see eye to eye on when you get busy? Are the benefits of morning and nighttime sex significant enough to declare one time of day superior over the other?
There’s been plenty of research on the classic debate, ranging from the benefits of each to what your sexy time preference can say about your personality. In fact, according to Psychology Today, research has shown that, “night owls are usually more extroverted and have more liberal views about casual sex. In contrast, morning larks are more introverted and usually prefer long-term monogamous relationships.” This statement is obviously just an observation and not set in stone.
At the end of the day, all sexual preferences (including time of day) should be respected and valued. If you and your partner clash on when you like to get down to business, it might be worth a conversation and a little bit of compromise. “I think the key is to experiment because you never know what might actually be better for you and this phase of your life,” says Amber Hawley, licensed therapist and star of Couples Fix Podcast. “So many people talk about not having as much sex as time goes on in their relationship and it’s important to the health of a relationship to figure out why and how can you find ways to make that happen more consistently.”
However, if you’re torn on the great sex debate of morning vs. nighttime sex, it might be worth it to weigh out your options to make an educated decision. Ahead, sex and relationship experts sound off on the benefits of AM and PM sexy time. Take notes.
The Early Bird Catches The Worm
While you may be against getting it on before your morning cup of coffee, experts say doing so could be quite beneficial. “While there are many reasons to have morning sex, studies show that early sex is the most pleasurable,” says Adina Mahalli, certified relationship expert and family care consultant for Maple Holistics. “After a full night’s rest, your revitalized energy levels should help you have more exciting sex.”
The benefits of early morning intimacy can also be mental. “Because orgasms are just as much psychological as they are physical, it’s crucial for women to allow themselves to live in the moment and remove all mental blockages,” says Mahalli. “That being said, I recommend women schedule morning sex when they are significantly more likely to achieve orgasm since they’re more relaxed and less inhibited.”
Hawley says an early sex session is also ideal for couples with children or hectic schedules. “When working with couples with young children or demanding life/work schedules, having sex in the morning can be a game changer,” explains Hawley. “Often people have more energy because they didn’t wait until the end of the day when they are wiped out. They are rested and relaxed and it can be a great way to start your day and have a great release of dopamine. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that, when released in the brain, contributes to feelings of pleasure and satisfaction — so you start your day feeling great.”
Hey, night owls, if you’re about getting busy under the light of the moon, you’re in luck. There’s a plethora of benefits to a little evening connection. “Having sex at night can be a great way to connect with your partner after a long day,” says Hawley. “Sex can be a great stress reliever and promote better sleep. It’s a fun, healthy way to relax and unwind.”
With sleep disorders and deficiency being such a common issue these days, sex seems like a worthy solution to give a whirl. In fact, a study conducted at CQUniversity in Australia found that a sex session right before bedtime might be the key to falling and staying asleep. Of the 460 adults surveyed (between ages 18 and 70), 64 percent of the respondents said sex helped them sleep better. Also, it must be noted that it wasn't just any kind of sex that did the trick but sex that resulted in an orgasm. So there you have it — there's never been a better excuse to get it on.
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